Suicide Prevention week Sept 9-15!

Call someone, text someone….. anything!!! Cry, scream, sob, hold, be held…. anything, just anything except making that irreversible decision to end it all.  Please!!

This blog is not only ‘aimed’ at veterans, even though my brothers are always close to my heart.  It is for anyone who is in such a dark place they are considering the ultimate self inflicted wound.  As a combat veteran I have watched helplessly as I experience the news time after time that a brother in arms has taken his own life.  Six of those times, it has been a close battle buddy I served and fought along side.  The demons of War, following them home, as they did with most of us.  Defeating my brothers thousands of miles from the battle field where they found us.

I have been there.  I have found myself on several occasions in a particular position/situation where I was about to make the ultimate decision.  Completely exhausted and defeated to the point of wanted to go and personally meet Jesus on MY time and ask him “why me”?   Or, not necessarily getting ready to ‘do it’ but caring so little about yourself that you put yourself in extremely dangerous situations that could easily end up in the loss of your life.  I have been there too.  Either one is a desperate situation.

At my darkest time, after several self destructive moments, I decided to flee everything and head home to England to be around my family.  I spent weeks with them, walking and thinking and praying.  Asking over and over again, why me? why make me go through all that and feel this way God?  Help me Lord?  Where are you?  Why have you left me?

God answered me during a walk through the fields outside my village.  He told me he hadn’t left me and that he loved me.  Yet, I had to trust him and I had to believe that what he had planned for me was perfect, FOR ME.  I wouldn’t think so, I wouldn’t want to follow his plan but I had a chance, perhaps my last chance to follow and do things HIS way, not mine.  I was financially broke, mentally broken and physically exhausted.  Living back at my parents home in the same bedroom I had grown up in.  In a village with a population of no more than 1000 people, little job options…… few options of anything to be honest.

So…… how did he heal me?  I got deployed again for 12 months! Yep, not joking!  After our intervention I went home and had received an email from a contracting company offering me a lucrative, yet dangerous contract back to Afghanistan.  Are you f*cking kidding me Lord?? This is my salvation? This is the golden ticket for me??

Within 2 weeks, I was in Texas taking a medical examination and a physical fitness test.  Completed my firearms and first aid training and being interviewed.  At the end of the process I was selected and formally offered the contract to sign and accept.  Six figure, tax free salary with a completion bonus tacked on to the end if I stayed the entire 12 month deployment.

I trusted and I went.

I trusted and I was saved.

12 months later and after 6 months in Afghanistan and 6 in Serbia I was out of debt and even had some money in the bank.  I was physically in amazing condition and I had spent plenty of time with God, in a wonderful church family on base.   My mental state was still rocky but I finally had hope, I had experienced Gog.  Including his full and unwavering level of grace and forgiveness.

Upon my return, God had placed my (now) beautiful wife back into my life and connected me with a wonderful support system of professionals who helped me stay on the right path and, away from the dark ledge I had spent so many years hanging off.

My way had not worked, clearly.  I trusted God with my life and he saved it; literally.

So give it a go!!! Just ask him and he WILL save you…. he will replenish your soul and your life.  Although he is never done working with us and for us,  in the aftermath, he will place people in your life that will continue his work.

I love me again, which means I can feel his love for me.  I can feel the unconditional and everlasting love my wife has for me.  I love life again.

After the things I have done, the hurt I have caused, the pain I have put people through.  The hatred that lived in my heart, the darkness I invited into my life and the lies that flowed from my mouth.  If God loves me so much that he would still move my life in a way that could save a wretched soul like mine, he WILL save you too!!!

I’m not perfect, life has not been perfect since I asked Jesus into my life.  Having said that, he has continued to work and do things for me that are good for ME, even if I didn’t ask for them, or agree with them.

Please don’t make a decision you cannot reverse.   Pray and look at the options he has placed in your life.  As bad as you think it is, the options are there.  Trust me!

I am not professionally trained in counseling or mental health but if you think I might be able to help, or you just need to be heard.  Feel free to reach out to me.

I will always be my brothers keeper!

 

http://www.mission22.com

http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org  —  1 800 273 8255

 

 

 

 

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Author: 22PTSD

I'm from England and moved to the US in my mid 20's. I served in the US Army for 8 years and deployed over seas 3 times between 2006 and 2013. I'm now 39 and am married to a wonderful, beautiful woman from Massachusetts. She has been my rock during some very dark personal struggles with my combat PTSD and continues to support me daily! We recently relocated to Texas with our pup! I work for the federal government and am a die hard Manchester United fan!

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